21stcenturyhousewife

Before my husband and I were married I could expect the usual Valentine’s Day card and gift.  Sometimes even an unexpected gift, like the year he spent way too much money on a diamond necklace for me.  This Valentine’s Day I am only expecting to do laundry and have left over pork roast for dinner tonight.  Is it the economy or is the romance dead?

I’m a very practical person.  I know we don’t have extra money to spend these days.  Therefore, I don’t expect to exchange $4 a piece greeting cards with my husband just because of a commercialized holiday.  I wouldn’t even consider having someone watch our son in order to go out and spend money on an overpriced meal at some nice restaurant.  I’m not the type of woman who enjoys getting all dressed up and going out on the town too often anyway.  Once in a great while the mood might strike me, but as a rule it just isn’t something I’m into.  Hence, the reason I’m not too upset over not having the money to blow on what have become the traditional celebrations of Valentine’s Day.  Plus I think with the way the economy has continued to decline for over a year now, even if we had the money to spend I would still be saving every penny possible.

With everything we have going on right now I didn’t even think much about the fact that Valentine’s Day was today.  My husband is an owner operator (truck driver who owns his truck) and his truck has been in the shop for about three weeks now.  Since his work is our only source of income this means we have had no money coming in the entire time his truck has been down.  Luckily his truck is now fixed and he will be back to working again soon.  We are still dealing with some other things, but I won’t go into all that right now.  The bottom line is I’m not really feeling the whole Valentine’s Day vibe today.

What’s starting to bother me is the fact that I’m not bothered by any of it.  I’ve never really seen the point in spending all that money for roses that’ll be dead within the week.  When we were dating I often scolded my husband for spending money on something as frivolous as roses for me.  Yet he still did it and I don’t foresee that being the case today.  I’m positive on his end it is entirely the lack of money and I wouldn’t doubt if he’s feeling a little down that we won’t being doing too much Valentine’s Day celebrating today.  As for me, I’m almost completely fine with not doing anything different today.

Does that mean the romance is dead or am I just too sensible about things?  Sometimes I feel that I don’t care about things the way I use to now that I’m a mother.  Unless it is something that affects my son, I’m not really concerned by it.  I know in a lot of way I’m not a “typical” woman.  Is it my unique view about things that makes me not feel the hype of today?  Anyone out there understand what I mean?  Do you have the same attitude about Valentine’s Day not being a big deal?